Cold and dark winter nights mean more excuses to snuggle under the sheets with that special someone. But according to sex and relationship experts, for some, the cold weather freezes all desire and stirs up your libido.
VITAMIN D DEFICIENCY LOWERS LIBIDO
Research found in the fall and winter months may trigger decreased libido due to low levels of vitamin D. People may also notice a mood swing or experience seasonal depression (SAD). Studies have shown that the change in seasons can really affect our sex life.
TO REFLAVE THE SPARKS…
If you feel disconnected, experts say it’s often due to being lazy or feeling stuck in a routine. But there are things you can do to rekindle the sparks.
EXPERT RECOMMENDATIONS FOR A PASSIONATE SEX LIFE
Talk to your partner about sex. It may seem like a difficult conversation, but communication is the key to connecting.
Make the most of candlelight on darker, cooler evenings. Tealights or scented candles all give off a sensual and romantic glow
While using lubricants may not directly help with libido, it may help with low sex drive symptoms such as vaginal dryness or discomfort during penetrating intercourse.
Masturbate more. It may sound counterintuitive, but it can help you learn what gives you pleasure and teach your partner to do the same.
Let your imagination wander. Daydreaming, reading erotica, or watching pornography can really help us stimulate our own sexual urges.
Identify external stressors that may be hindering your relationship and take action to improve it.
If you have kids, see if they can stay with grandparents or a friend so you can have some time to yourself.
Just schedule some time for you. A little self-care to indulge in something you love on your own can actually make you spend more time with your partner.
Get professional help. Sometimes a relationship coach or counselor can provide the perspective and objectivity you may need to address issues in your relationship.
Shake up your routine. Routine can be the bane of all sexual relationships, whether you have sex on a Sunday morning or always have sex in the same position or at the same time. Instead of waiting for a scheduled moment, have a date night, get dressed, or have sex when spontaneity gets you.