9 behaviors that reveal that you might be too naive in everyday life

Because they see everything rosy, or on the bright side, naive people are often perceived as innocent and positive. But this character trait is not necessarily a good thing: blind to the conflicts and problems that surround them, the naive person can also put themselves in danger. Here are 9 subtle traits that can tell you if you’re too naive or not.

You forgive too quickly

Because they take everyone at their word, regardless of ulterior motives, naive people forgive everything, even those who have no intention of changing their behavior. Forgiveness isn’t inherently bad, but giving it too quickly isn’t always healthy or helpful. For psychiatrist Franck Anderson, reacting in the media Yourtangosociety and culture push for forgiveness prematurely. A healthier answer would be “Heal first. Choose to forgive then.”

You are too idealistic

Naive people tend to see everything in a positive light, which often means they have a hard time getting through the toughest times in life. If idealism is generally considered a positive quality, being too optimistic has disadvantages: you do not always bring the necessary importance to the problems of others for example (“but no it’s not that serious, look at life on the bright side”) which can be hurtful. Even if it’s not their attention, it may be inappropriate.

You turn a blind eye to manipulative behavior

A very naive person can also be devoid of wisdom. And will not pay attention to manipulative behavior because she firmly believes that the person cannot deliberately harm her. Therefore, she often does not see the signs of abuse. Ultimately, this can leave her emotionally exhausted or heartbroken. “This most often happens to ‘good’ people… who want to see the best in others and find it hard to believe that someone could be so cruel.” says psychotherapist Marni Feuerman. “The best tool we can use to avoid becoming a victim… is to develop our own emotional intelligence.” So trust your intuition more.

You are generous to excess (in time, in services, etc.)

A naive person gives without considering their own needs or limitations. She firmly believes that people are naturally good, which means she doesn’t notice when someone takes advantage of her. Her trusting nature can lead her down a dark path, one where her naturally generous spirit is exploited for someone else’s benefit. Unfortunately, in this context, people who are too naive avoid defending their own interests because they do not want to make waves or hurt anyone. Although generosity is a beautiful quality, which allows people to be appreciated and promotes connections, a naive person can put themselves in danger.

“You don’t have to meet the needs of others,” establishes the expert. “Practice being vulnerable in small steps…set goals and make new choices to change your life, like making time to do the things you love rather than submitting to the needs of others.”

You always assume the best

Because of their naivety, some people expect everything to go their way, which leaves them unprepared for times when things don’t go their way. Due to their deeply held belief that life will work itself out, they often do not make practical plans and ignore possible failures they may face. There is undoubtedly work to be done to find the delicate balance between assuming the worst and assuming the best.

You don’t see the red flags in relationships

Naive individuals tend to ignore their intuition or don’t know how to hear it, which means they miss the warning signs of a relationship that isn’t right for them. So a very naive person is overconfident. She gives others the benefit of the doubt and gives them several second chances to prove themselves. When their partner only talks about themselves, they downplay the red flag that prompts them to be more self-centered. “Ignoring warning signs means neglecting one’s own interests, which happens when a person does not draw wisdom from past missteps,” the expert warns.

You are easily influenced by others

Influenced by the opinions of others, naive individuals often allow doubt to creep in and allow others to make decisions for them. They may believe in promises that others made to them but never intended to keep, and change their views based on what others think. In doing so, they leave their critical thinking aside, to analyze whether these opinions correspond to their values.

Because they are so easily influenced, they run the risk of being deceived by others who do not have their best interests at heart.

You do not take enough account of the negative consequences

Despite their good will, the naive person may end up hurting people unnecessarily because they do not realize when certain things do not go as planned. However, it is not enough to hope that everything goes well for things to work. Whether in the work world or helping a friend organize something, naive people usually don’t have an emergency plan to offer.

You avoid confrontation

Finally, in their quest for good vibes, naive people avoid any form of confrontation. They have difficulty confronting people or expressing that they have been hurt, because ultimately they long for a peaceful and positive atmosphere. This is a mistake: their policy of looking the other way can make them feel resentful or unappreciated. The psychotherapist, Joan E. Childs, reminds us “conflict is productive in healthy relationships. In the latter, neither partner subjugates his or her feelings to please the other.” To achieve this, there is only one possible solution: conflicts must be externalized and resolved. No, not repainted a nice pink color.

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