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Being unfailingly supportive of your man is a (beautiful) thing in a relationship. However, if this support only works one way, perhaps he is using you to flatter his ego… A toxic relationship that you can detect thanks to several signs, reminds a psychologist.
He is counting on you to support him, reassure him or even to value him… But in the other direction, your partner does not seem very involved in your own existence. Be careful, some men tend to use their conquest or their partner to feel good about themselves, without any intention of making an effort to reassure you. A relationship which will not give you any satisfaction and which is better to identify. The Hack Spirit media has identified the different signs that can help you detect such a personality according to psychologists.
This man is always fishing for compliments
Appreciating a compliment from the person you are in a relationship with is nothing unusual. But when a man seems to constantly seek praise, it may be more about ego than attachment. “According to psychology, people with high egos often seek compliments for strengthen their self-esteem. They are not only happy when they hear nice things about themselves: they need them.”
The technique is often the same: steer the conversation towards a moment where he subtly puts himself down… in the hope that you react.”but yes, you were great”. If this happens regularly, be wary.
If the desired man only notices you or asks you when he seems to have a drop in morale, be vigilant too! You’re not a cheerleader, support has to come from both sides, just like good times. “Psychology suggests that people who use others to boost their ego tend to only contact them when they need emotional support or validation.” If you find yourself in this situation, it is important to discuss it and set boundaries. Relationships are about give and take, not just one person constantly giving.
He’s not really interested in your life
In a balanced couple, it is common to ask questions about your partner’s day and their mood. But when a man uses you to boost his ego, he may not show much interest in your life. “People with inflated egos tend to focus more on their own experiences and less on those of others. evokes the media. Concretely this translates into a man who always talks about himself without asking you questions about your day, your dreams or your feelings. In these difficult conditions to establish a connection.
It’s nowhere to be found when you need it
Nothing is more telling than the way a person behaves when going through a difficult time. If a man disappears or doesn’t seem interested when you need him to, that’s a clear sign that he might be using you to boost his ego. In psychology, this is what we call “fair-weather friendship.” These people are only there during the good times, when they can benefit from your admiration and praise. But disappear from the landscape when things get complicated. If this sounds familiar, it may be time to reconsider your relationship.
He doesn’t appreciate your uniqueness
Loving a person for who they are, with their personality traits, their touch of madness, sometimes even their strangeness, that’s what counts in love. But when a man uses you to boost his ego, he may not appreciate your uniqueness, or he may simply not see what makes you special. Again, psychology tells us that people who truly care about you are interested in understanding and appreciating your unique qualities. If he doesn’t, love yourself enough to find someone who appreciates you for who you are, unique personality included.
He avoids future plans with you
Everything seems to be going well between you, but your partner never talks about the future, not even next weekend? It’s a bad sign. People who are truly invested in a relationship will want to plan and envision a future together. If he always lives in the moment and avoids talking about future plans, it could be a sign that he isn’t serious about the relationship.
He never introduces you to his friends or family
Meeting a loved one’s friends and family is an important step in a relationship. This is a sign that things are getting serious. It may take time, depending on the context (a family conflict etc.) but this man never introduces you to those around him, or even to a friend, this could indicate that he is simply using you to boost his ego. “People who are genuinely interested in a relationship will want to include their partner in their social circles. If he keeps you apart from his friends and family, it may be because he doesn’t view the relationship as a long-term one.” This lack of integration could mean that he is more interested in how you make him feel about himself than in building something meaningful with you.
Good in his body, good in his head!
You feel more accessory than partner
This is ultimately the crux of all this. If you ever feel like an accessory, present when it comes to making him look good or comforting him, rather than a valued partner, taken as a whole, that’s a huge red flag. Healthy relationships are based on mutual respect and equality. If he treats you like an ego booster, but doesn’t take care of you, or doesn’t appreciate you as a person, it’s best to put an end to this harmful relationship.”You are not an accessory in someone else’s life, but a unique and valuable person who deserves love and respect”, concludes the media. This is useful to remember.
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