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Creating a bond, making a good impression sometimes comes down to little things. But certain attitudes tend to ruin your chances in a matter of minutes. Here are 8 habits that will give a bad image of you. To change urgently.
Navigating new social circles isn’t always easy and can sometimes feel intimidating. The result? We don’t always make the right choices in our interactions. And some of our attitudes, whether conscious or not, can even put people off. The media Hack Spirit had fun detecting 8 habits that often make others hate us. And the possible alternatives to make a better impression. Here they are.
Dominate the conversation
You know that person who only talks about themselves in every situation? (And who annoys everyone?)… If this is you, know that it’s a common faux pas that can instantly make you less likeable. Conversation is a two-way street and people generally appreciate a person who listens more than a person who monopolizes the conversation. This doesn’t mean you should stop talking about yourself, but only in the context of a balanced exchange.
What to do instead? ? The next time you’re in a conversation, try to be more aware of how much listening you can offer too. Ask questions and show genuine interest in the other person.
To be negative
A little sarcasm is okay (it’s even funny!). But hearing someone constantly complain and only see the negative side of things is just plain exhausting and doesn’t make you a fun person to be around. Sure, we all have bad days and sometimes need to let off steam. But when it becomes constant, it can make people want to avoid spending time with you.
What to do instead? This is not about faking happiness or ignoring your problems, of course. But try as much as possible to focus on the positive aspects of each situation.
Don’t look the other in the eye
A study from Japan’s National Institute of Physiological Sciences found that maintaining eye contact can actually synchronize brain activity between two people. When you constantly look away while someone is talking to you, it’s the opposite: you come across as disinterested, even rude. It sends the signal that you’d rather be somewhere else.
What to do instead? Try to maintain a balance: it is not about staring at your interlocutor, but about maintaining eye contact occasionally and not being afraid of it.
Constantly checking your phone
Sure, today, our phones are used to communicate, check emails, etc., and they’re never far away. But there’s a time and place for everything, and constantly checking your phone in the middle of an interaction is very annoying. This habit sends a clear message that whatever is on your phone is more important than the person in front of you. It interrupts the flow of the conversation and can make the other person feel unimportant.
What to do instead? When you are in a social situation, try to put your phone away. If you are expecting an important call or message, let the other person know in advance. A courtesy that will be appreciated.
Lack of empathy
In our busy lives, it’s easy to forget to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. But empathy is truly the cornerstone of any meaningful relationship. Lacking empathy, such as when someone is opening up about a problem, can make people feel ignored and unimportant.
What to do instead? Learn to listen again. When we take the time to truly understand and share someone else’s feelings, it creates a powerful connection.
To judge
We all have our own beliefs and opinions. But when we impose them on others or judge them by our own standards, whether in a joke or with disdain, people can instantly hate us.
What to do instead? Even if the topic of conversation seems trivial, try to keep an open mind instead of making snap judgments. Give people the space to be themselves without fear of being judged. You might be surprised at how much more people open up.
To be late
Studies have shown that people who are consistently punctual are often perceived as more reliable and conscientious. In fact, when someone is consistently late, it can come across as if they don’t value your time.
Being late sends the message that your time is more important than theirs. Getting into the habit of this can be frustrating to others.
What to do instead? It’s simple! Plan ahead, allow for possible delays, and if you’re going to be late, let the other person know as soon as possible.
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Not keeping your word
Trust is the foundation of any relationship and when you say you’re going to do something, people expect you to follow through. Failure to do so can cause people to instantly question your trustworthiness.
What to do ? Once you make a commitment, no matter how small, make sure you follow through. It’s not just about avoiding disappointment; it’s also about building trust and respect, which are the keys to any successful relationship.
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