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As time goes by, a romantic relationship evolves and the experiences the couple goes through help to shape it. It is also an opportunity to learn from one’s mistakes. Here are some examples.
Being in a relationship is something that is learned. And generally, in their early days, everyone makes mistakes. It is only with time that we learn the consequences. Here are some life lessons that couples learn late.
It’s okay to spend time apart
At the beginning of a relationship, the two lovebirds devote all their energy and free time to their union. However, if it is true that spending time together allows a better connection between the two partners, doing something else each on their own also does. How is this possible? Quite simply because spending time separately allows you to flourish differently and to better appreciate the moments together afterwards.
Saying what you need is not a bad thing
It is important to be able to tell your partner how you feel. But sometimes people don’t do it, fearing that it will push the other person away or that it will come across as complaining. But not telling your partner how you feel can lead to dissatisfaction in the relationship, which can turn into arguments.
Perfection does not exist
When you pick up your phone, it’s tempting to scroll through social media and compare your life to others. But be careful: remember that these photos or short videos only capture a brief moment in the lives of these people and that nothing reveals the reality. If many publications praise the “perfect couple”, it does not exist in reality. All relationships are fluctuating, yours like all the others.
Arguments aren’t always bad.
It is believed that a couple who argues is necessarily dysfunctional. However, if an argument is healthy, it can allow you to learn from each other and better manage the relationship. Knowing how to argue constructively can therefore teach the couple to move forward, contrary to what one might think.
Starting couples therapy is not a failure
Finally, couples who choose to undergo marital therapy are considered to be at the end of their rope. Indeed, it is still too often perceived as the ultimate solution to save one’s relationship before the breakup. However, according to a survey published by the media Very Well Mind, 99% of people in couples therapy said that it had “a positive impact on their relationship” and 76% said that this practice had a high or very high impact. The couples therapist can serve as a guide to help partners function better. And to overcome their difficulties together, hand in hand.
You don’t have to love your partner in their entirety
When you’re in a relationship with someone, you sometimes feel obligated to love them fully and completely, without nuance. In reality, there’s no obligation to love your other half in their entirety. It’s perfectly normal to not like certain flaws, habits, or aspects of their personality. As long as what you like about them prevails, everything is fine.
It’s okay to feel lonely sometimes
Loneliness is a feeling that we have all felt at least once. And being in a relationship will not change anything: it is not up to your partner to make you happy or to meet all your expectations. Feeling lonely in a relationship is therefore normal, as long as it happens occasionally. If you only feel good in the presence of your other half, ask yourself if you are not suffering from emotional dependence.
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