Is your daughter getting ready to experience her first period? Puberty is a big milestone for her, and having support can make all the difference. Discover our tips for approaching the subject with kindness and answering all their questions.
The first rules mark a big change for a teenager. Between curiosity, apprehension and sometimes pain, this step can sometimes be confusing. Here are our tips for approaching this moment calmly with your child and supporting them with kindness.
1. Discuss the subject in advance and simply
“What exactly are periods?”, “Why does it happen?”, “Is it painful?”, “What does it look like?”, “Why don’t boys have them?”… These questions deserve simple and reassuring answers. At the first signs of puberty such as hair or chest growth, take the time to explain to your child what is happening to his body. Knowing that menstruation is natural and understanding their role will help her approach this stage a little more calmly.
2. “The day I got my first period”… Share your story
To help your child realize that she is not alone, you can tell her about your own experience. Tell him about the time you had your first period: where you were, how you experienced it, whether you expected it or not. These personal confidences also create a bond and give her the confidence to express her own fears or questions. Take the opportunity to advise her to keep a sanitary napkin in her school bag, just in case, so she feels prepared for any situation.
3. Teach her the signs to prepare
To better anticipate the arrival of her period, list with your daughter the signs that may occur. For example, pain in the lower abdomen, back, breasts, the appearance of pimples on the face a few days before… These signs of course depend on each woman, and are generally the same each month. Reassure her that if periods are painful, it is possible to alleviate the symptoms with medication prescribed by a doctor. Depending on the case and the type of pain, do not hesitate to seek advice from a gynecologist.
4. Pads, tampons, menstrual panties… Gently explain the basics to him
At the start of your first period, sanitary napkins are often the simplest choice. Take the time to show her how to use them, step by step, so she feels comfortable. Also talk to him about tampons, without pressure, explaining that they could be useful later, for example for the swimming pool. The objective: to give him confidence in this new world. Also, today there are menstrual panties in the form of reusable underwear with integrated absorbent technology. And above all, suggest that they always keep a towel in their bag if needed!
5. A book to understand everything independently
Even if you’re there to chat, your teen might appreciate additional support to answer her questions. A good book about puberty and menstruation can be a valuable resource. For example, “All about the rules” by Anna Roy (editions Flammarion), “The rules…what an adventure!” by Élise Thiébaut and Mirion Malle (editions of Remue-ménage). A way to learn at your own pace, while feeling supported.