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You’ve just started a new relationship and are spending hours chatting with your new conquest. While you may want to tell him everything about yourself (which is normal), there are some topics that are best left undiscussed too early. Here are some.
When you start dating someone, there are many topics of conversation. Be careful, however, warns a psychologist in the media Hack Spirit, there are certain things to avoid, at least at the very beginning of the relationship. Here are some.
The number of exes you’ve had
Is revealing the number of sexual partners you’ve had so far – also known as your bodycount – an important piece of information to reveal at the beginning of a relationship? If you’re a woman who’s had a certain number of partners, revealing this number can tarnish your image as a “potential wife”. If you’re a man, people could quickly think that you’re not really serious and not really ready to commit. In any case, you risk being judged, without it bringing anything beneficial to the relationship. So there’s no point!
Dramas that concern your family
Almost every family has experienced their share of drama, some serious or others. While these topics can be discussed with your partner, it should not be done in the first few weeks of the relationship.
Indeed, it is not certain that your new conquest will be able to understand what you have been through. This risks creating a chill between you and a misunderstanding. It is better to wait until you know the other person well before approaching this type of subject.
Your salary
When you meet a new person, it’s common to talk about their job. However, you don’t have to reveal your salary. Especially during the first few weeks of your relationship. In fact, according to psychologist Max Alberhansky, a couple can start talking about money after six months of dating. And even after that time, you can approach the subject with a basic question, like “what was your most expensive purchase?” for example.
Specific details about your exes
Again, the past must be left in its place. Also, talking about your previous relationships will not add any value to your current love life. There is no point in talking about that ex you almost married. And in the same way, there is no obligation to answer questions about these people who are definitely out of your life.
Your Ideal Relationship Timeline
Whether you want to get married quickly or not, your new conquest will not want to know it, at the beginning of your relationship. Why? Simply because if she does not know what she wants on her side, it can put a brake on your meeting.
It is possible to discuss marriage and future children, in a future together, but giving a specific date is not recommended, at the risk of coming across as a control freak. It is better not to set short-term goals, especially on such sensitive subjects, but rather to evolve together on the issue, over time.
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