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Stifled in your relationship, you only want one thing: for the other to give you some space. Problem: you have no idea how to approach the subject… Here are four tips to achieve this.
Taking time for yourself is essential. This allows you to refocus, to flourish and to give the best of yourself to others, in return, including as a couple. But for those who have a partner who is very present on a daily basis, it can be difficult to find these types of moments, alone. How do you tell your other half that you need space?
Establish trust in your relationship
When we want to take time for ourselves, the other can easily imagine that we are turning away from him (or her) or worse, that we want to separate. To avoid scaring your partner, you must first take the time to reassure him or her about the relationship. This involves moments of sharing and communication, which allow us to tell others that our desires for elsewhere are necessary for our balance.
Communicate transparently
Communication is key, as is often the case. And as VeryWellMind magazine reports, it is necessary to clearly say how you feel to your partner, without completely turning away from him or her, or abandoning your responsibilities. “It is crucial to reinforce everyone’s safety and co-create clear expectations for communication and contact during this time of separation. You can be upfront about your needs while recognizing your responsibility to always be there for them. other” can we read on VeryWellMind,
Arouse desire, even from a distance
By spending time away from your other half, it is also an opportunity to rediscover yourself. Take the time to write to him, to rediscover the passion and desire that animated you at the start of your relationship. This is also the time for your partner to discover you in a different light and to understand that distancing yourself is not necessarily a negative thing.
Supporting others in their own development
To make your partner understand your need for space, there is nothing like helping him or her to flourish in an activity that he or she will enjoy doing alone without your presence. This could be going out with friends, attending a cultural event or playing a sport. Nothing better to understand your need for space!
Continue to see each other, but less often
Finally, remind your loved one that if you need space, this does not mean that you no longer want to see him or her at all. On the contrary, choosing the moments of meeting and the activities done together makes the couple stronger, by keeping the best of these moments spent together. This can only strengthen the relationship, whereas an unmet need for space will only weaken it.
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