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On his Instagram account, a psychologist reveals three tips for parents who want their children to cooperate and listen more.
Daily life with our toddlers is not always easy, especially when they decide to go play when setting the table or watch a cartoon instead of going to take their bath. So how can we make them more cooperative during these key moments of the day? Psychologist Eli Harwood shares 3 tips on her Instagram account that can help.
1 – Take a step back and observe the situation
Before reacting immediately when your child expresses refusal, the psychologist recommends taking a step back to analyze the situation. “First, decipher your own reaction. Did his refusal cause you frustration or anger? Did you perhaps raise your voice or act passive-aggressively without realizing it?” she asks, before continuing: “Also think about your child’s feelings. How did he express his refusal? What emotions are he showing and Why do you think he feels that way?”.
Only after this observation phase can the discussion begin. According to the expert, you can address your offspring in this way: “I noticed you were feeling frustrated earlier. I’ll do some deep breathing exercises and if you want you can join me.”
2 – Share time together
If the situation is tense, the psychologist makes sure to spend more time together, with each of the children. However, this time together must be constructive and of quality. For example, you can read him a story, participate in an activity that he likes or cook together. “It’s more about being totally present and connected to your child.”suggests the psychologist.
3 – Improve communication
Finding the right way to communicate isn’t always easy. As Eli Harwood points out, “It is important to materialize things. Sometimes words are not enough.“Therefore, creating a schedule that children can access can be a way to solicit their cooperation.
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